Comments on: Loss of a Friend http://webfeedcentral.com/2010/01/05/loss-of-a-friend/ Each Another's Audience... Fri, 16 Apr 2010 05:25:34 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Harold http://webfeedcentral.com/2010/01/05/loss-of-a-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-4 Harold Tue, 26 Jan 2010 00:31:49 +0000 http://webfeedcentral.com/?p=13#comment-4 Sorry to hear that, Tom. I think I can guess who you're writing about, and though I know absolutely no details about this episode in your life (other than what you've posted here), I can sense by your words that it was an emotionally difficult thing for you and your wife (and family) to deal with. I don't know what to post that won't sound trite or cliché. What I've already posted probably already seems as such. Maybe I can offer a perspective that may turn out to be way off the mark: Perhaps your buddy has some kind of social anxiety. I'm speaking from experience -- my own -- since I've backed out of similar things due to onsets of anxiety. (For example, one year I failed to make it to my buddy's bachelor camping trip due to anxiety; this led, in part, the a dissolution of the friendship. Another time found me backing out of yet another camping trip (this time with strangers) for a volunteer assignment. A really heavy rainstorm had hit Southern California, and though this was my ostensible excuse for not making the commitment, I knew that I was also feeling anxious about spending a week with strangers.) I'm not making excuses for your friend -- and as I mentioned, I have no other knowledge of what transpired other than what you've posted here -- but offer my perspective in the hopes that maybe it'll help somehow. Maybe it'll even help you two to mend this friendship. Sorry to hear that, Tom. I think I can guess who you’re writing about, and though I know absolutely no details about this episode in your life (other than what you’ve posted here), I can sense by your words that it was an emotionally difficult thing for you and your wife (and family) to deal with.

I don’t know what to post that won’t sound trite or cliché. What I’ve already posted probably already seems as such. Maybe I can offer a perspective that may turn out to be way off the mark: Perhaps your buddy has some kind of social anxiety. I’m speaking from experience — my own — since I’ve backed out of similar things due to onsets of anxiety. (For example, one year I failed to make it to my buddy’s bachelor camping trip due to anxiety; this led, in part, the a dissolution of the friendship. Another time found me backing out of yet another camping trip (this time with strangers) for a volunteer assignment. A really heavy rainstorm had hit Southern California, and though this was my ostensible excuse for not making the commitment, I knew that I was also feeling anxious about spending a week with strangers.)

I’m not making excuses for your friend — and as I mentioned, I have no other knowledge of what transpired other than what you’ve posted here — but offer my perspective in the hopes that maybe it’ll help somehow. Maybe it’ll even help you two to mend this friendship.

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